I was having an awesome session with a client a few weeks ago and we got to talking about why we do the things that we do. My super client said that she couldn’t love doing anything that she wasn’t good at–she didn’t do things that she wasn’t good at because she wasn’t good at them…if that makes sense.
I realized that I was surprised at her response. I’m not sure why I was surprised, because I think that most people in the world don’t love doing things that they’re not good at.
I’m different from those people, though. I actually like doing things that I’m not good at.
I mean, if I’m reeeeeally bad at it, I probably won’t like it at first, but if I’m just “not good” at it, I see it as something that I can work to improve.
Take the shot put for example: when I first started throwing shot in high school, I was okay at it. Not bad, but also not good. There was something about throwing that made me want to get better at it.
There is a lot of technique involved in throwing the shot. In practice, I used my brain a lot more than my brawn. Come to think of it, maybe I would have been a better thrower if I had used more of my brawn and less of my brain.
I liked throwing the shot because I liked to surprise people. I wasn’t built like a typical thrower. Okay, maybe I was/am, but on a smaller scale. I’m short for a shot putter at 5’4 1/2″ and in college I was always one of the smallest girls to compete. I loved to surprise people by being better than they thought I was. I liked having people size me up and think that they could beat me because they were bigger…and then pull out a super throw and beat them or at least stay in the game.
I liked trying to be good at the shot put because it’s something that people didn’t expect me to be good at…and I wasn’t good at it at first. I worked at it and got better. It was all about the technique with me. In college we even made pink t-shirts that said so. We called ourselves the “skinny girl throwers” or S.G.T Hamilton XXS.
Even though I started out being not good, I stuck with it and I worked hard and eventually became good enough. So yes, I like doing things that I’m “not good” at. Things like butterfly pull-ups, drawing and talking to strangers. I like doing these things because I like getting better at them. I can deal with being “not good” at something if practicing it means that I’ll eventually be “good enough” at it.
What’s something that you’re technically not good at, but like doing anyway? Or something that you used to be not good at that you stuck with and got better at?