Friday Musings: Forty Thousand Goals = My Demise

So. We all think we’re special.

And we are.

Most of us feel like we can do anything and everything that we set our minds to.

With all of the hustlebustle of modern living, it’s easy to take on a gazillion things at once and expect, because we’re some kind of “higher life-form,” that we can do it all.

I am no exception.

I know a lot about nutrition– it’s my job, and I pride myself on being continually curious, and therefore constantly learning. I have a science brain that remembers all kinds of weird, science-y things and also makes me pretty good at Jeopardy.

Because I know a lot about nutrition, and a fair amount about fitness, I just assumed that I could do it all when it came to my personal nutrition and fitness.

What do I mean? Well, for one thing, I had forty thousand goals: I wanted to get stronger, I wanted to lean out, I wanted to be faster, I want to be better at body weight exercises, I wanted to have more muscle…

Of course, being ME, I thought that I could do it all.

I’ve had all of those goals for over a year now…and every time I get serious about reaching all of forty thousand of them, I take forty thousand and one steps backward.

I get anal about grams of protein and carbs and my brain explodes.

I start a new Wendler cycle and I get bored out of my mind.

I start running intervals on the treadmill and I want to become a 15 year old Canadian teen (only because I run while watching Degrassi)

Anyway.

This week I realized what I dummy I am.

I’m in a wonderful group of health coaches called Mamacoach Circle. This group is made up of ah-mahz-ing women who are so, so accomplished in their fields.

A recurring theme in our forum conversations is taking things slow…aka doing one thing at a time…aka NOT having forty thousand goals.

I was all, “that message isn’t for me! I’m not like that…I don’t have forty thousand goals.” On one level, that’s true–I’m very good about focusing on ONE thing at a time when it comes to my business. BUT apparently NOT in my personal life.

I don’t think of my personal goals as goals. Maybe because I never really write them down, or even say them out loud…mostly because I don’t want to really put them out there and then never reach them…which is a fear that a lot of people have.

I don’t write SMART goals. I don’t list action steps…because action steps scare me. I never quantified (qualified?) my goals, and thus they never seemed real.

That’s why it took me so long to realize why I wasn’t making any progress.

From now on I have ONE goal. ONE. That’s thirty-nine thousand, nine-hundred and ninety-nine less than I had before.

I’m learning to love the SMART goal system…

S.pecific M.easurable A.ttainable R.ealistic T.imely

I’ve got the specific, attainable and realistic part down. I’m still a little wary of measurable and timely, but I’ll get there.

The moral of this obscenely long post is this:  Getting clear about your goals can be scary, but you gots to do it to get anywhere. 

 What is your ONE goal? How are you planning to reach it? Feel free to share in the comments below!

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4 Responses to Friday Musings: Forty Thousand Goals = My Demise

  1. Kelly March 2, 2012 at 11:48 AM #

    This is something that I’m really stuck on but Really need to learn. I know I have too many goals, and there is this little voice that keeps telling me that when I have so many goals not one is going to be reached. But, I don’t listen. Thanks for telling me again to seriously consider it via this post.

    • Allison March 2, 2012 at 12:10 PM #

      Thanks for sharing this, Kelly– It took me a while to connect having too many goals with “bad self-care”– As a health coach, I take pride in my ability to care for myself…but when I realized I had too many goals, I also realized that I wasn’t being honest with myself slash taking the best care of myself that I could.

  2. Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic March 2, 2012 at 9:39 PM #

    I’m a list maker so I often list down my weekly goals. It helps keep me focused. Right now my goal is to practice yoga at least once a week 🙂

    • Allison March 3, 2012 at 3:40 PM #

      Thanks for sharing, Bianca– It’s great that you write down weekly goals! I’m a daily list maker myself, but mostly for work related things…more like a “to-do” list person. Maybe I should start making “to-dos” for my non-work life…

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