What happens when you don’t feel like “doing” anymore?
When you feel like you’ve put in a good effort for a pretty long time.
And you’re tired.
Tired of doing.
Some people describe this as feeling burnt out.
Like you’ve run out of juice:
No more motivation. No more patience.
You just don’t want to “do.”
This feeling can apply to any situation:
- Following a healthy lifestyle.
- Putting in efforts at the gym.
- Showing up for your day job every day.
First, what does it mean when you don’t feel like doing?
I think there are two main reasons why we start feeling like we want to stop doing.
I find that usually this feeling arises when you’ve been putting in a good effort, but not seeing any results.
If you’re not seeing a return, why continue to invest your time.
But it could be that you feel burnt out because your body is trying to tell you something– like that you need a break.
When you’re sick of doing something that you usually love, that’s a sure-fire indication that you need to listen to your body and take a break.
If you’re tired of doing because you’re not seeing results, how do you re-discover your motivation without driving yourself from a place of desperation?
If you’re tired of doing and you don’t know why– like you’re in shock because you usually like doing the thing you’re totally not into at the moment–how do you allow yourself to take a break without fearing that it will be an eternal break?
Here are some tips for what to do when you don’t feel like “doing” anymore:
Seriously. Just stop. Take a deep breath and stop everything. How many things are you trying to do right now? Are you making sure to get ancestral superfoods while zoning every meal with one CarbNite a week? Are you trying to fit in 5 days of Crossfit, three days of running, two days of yoga and playtime? Maybe you’re doing too much.
Make a list of everything you’re doing. Then cross it all out.
Well, maybe not all of it, but most of it. List all of the things you’re striving to do and figure out what you can put on hold for a while. Crossing some things out will ease the pressure and help you feel a sense of release.
Remember how I said that you don’t need to cross out everything on your list? Well, maybe you do. Be bad. Stop doing everything. See how it feels to do nothing (except the essentials, of course). Stop zoning your meals. Stop going to the gym. Force yourself to stop for a while. Remember to make the conscious decision to stop from a place of nurturing yourself– when you’re coming from a supportive place, you’re less likely to feel guilt.
This is your life. Life is always moving forward. What’s the worst that can happen if you take a week or two off from the gym? You won’t turn into a ball of mush by taking two weeks off. When you’re 87 years old, will you even remember that you took two weeks off back in 2013? Probably not. Will you remember that you took a month off of the Zone diet? Probably not.
Sometimes taking a break can be just what you need to renew your motivation. Giving yourself some space to breathe and really focus on listening to your body and mind and finding what’s important to you.
Breaks are nourishing.
Sometimes if you just push through and “do” things you’re not motivated to do, or things that you’re tired of doing, you start to resent those things.
You’ve worked so hard to build this healthy life for yourself.
Do you really want to grow to resent it?
I’m guessing no.