You hear this all the time, everywhere.
But what does it really mean?
Everything in moderation = Everything sometimes.
But when is sometimes?
Is sometimes your 94-year-old Nana’s birthday?
Or is it a Wednesday?
Allow me to elaborate:
For most people, “moderation” means special occasion.
But how do you do you know when it’s a special occasion?
It’s really hard to define (and stick with your definition of) a special occasion.
It’s almost as hard as having to define “moderation.”
Because they’re basically the same thing.
You might think you have a definition for your special occasion…
…but then you find that special occasion occurring more and more until it isn’t so special.
I call this “Special Occasioning.”
When everything becomes a special occasion.
When everything becomes a special occasion, it stops being a special occasion, and you find yourself having to go back to square one and re-define your special occasion.
If you keep doing this over and over, it’s very similar to following a diet protocol and then rebelling against that diet…
So how do you eat things in moderation?
You see, eating things in moderation is a secret part of that pesky diet mentality.
It’s a stealthy way of labeling “bad” foods,
and getting stuck in a nasty restrict-rebel-regret cycle.
You would totally say that you only eat muffins in moderation.
But would you ever say that you eat carrots or broccoli in moderation?
Maybe…if carrots or broccoli gave you digestive distress…in which case they would be a not-best food choices for YOU in particular.
Do you see what I mean?
Eating in moderation is a way of putting a food restriction on yourself.
Even if it sounds sensible, it’s still a food restriction.
It only sounds sensible because the diet-guru-media told you that eating in moderation is the sensible thing to do.
Food restrictions really only work when they’re health-motivated as opposed to weight loss motivated.
When you avoid a certain food because know how a certain food makes you feel health-wise. When you can make the conscious, well-informed choice to eat it or not.
It’s time to forget about eating in moderation.
To let go of “good” and “bad” foods and just eating to nourish, to fuel and to enjoy your eating experience.
You might be scared to let go of your “in moderation” rule.
That’s totally normal.
Letting go takes time.
You’re worried about what will happen when you can eat muffins whenever you want.
Will you eat muffins until you die of a muffin overdose?
I don’t eat any food in moderation.
Even ice cream.
I eat it when I feel like it.
And because I’ve given myself that freedom, I tend to not feel like it all that often.
When I do feel like it, I eat it.
I enjoy it.
And then I move on.
Because to me, ice cream is a somewhat special food, but not a “bad” food that I should feel ashamed about eating.
(There’s absolutely NO shame in eating. Ever. But that’s a topic for another post).